As we approach a new year, many people start to think about what changes they would like to make in the months to come: a new exercise regime, more family time, trying new recipes, saving up for a dream vacation, or paying down debt.

Embrace the idea of change as a positive, and make sure that the people you surround yourself with are helping you be a better version of yourself. 

There is a lovely idea that you will make friends when your child is a newborn, and you will always be close with them. That your children will always enjoy their children. That even your husbands will get along and enjoy couple or family events. 
It happens. Just...not as often as people hope. Because at some point, you may realize that your parenting ideas don't mesh, or that your children don't really get along, or just that you don't have as much in common as you thought you did, when you met at playgroup with your infant. 

This trend continues when your child goes to daycare, or preschool, or kindergarten. Clients have said that they feel awkward, making and changing friends, but the changes in your life are happening rapidly, and it makes sense that some friendships will not survive. 

In the new year, take the advice your parents may have given you as a child, and advice that you will likely find yourself saying to your kids one day: 

  • Be yourself. 
  • Be proud of who you are. 
  • Don't try to fit into somebody else's mold, because it is hard to be happy when you're an origami version of yourself. 

For a happier new year, contact me at debhurowitz@yahoo.com, or visit me at http://mommybutstillme.com/

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